October 6, 2021
Bonus Episode: Steffany Hanlen & Patrick Francey: Mindset Matters #1
“Why the conversation about mindset and why is it important? It’s not just about success, it’s not about getting shit done, it’s not about being uber successful in business or in life. It’s really how we approach business, how we approach life. It’s actually all about us and how we view the world.”
– Patrick Francey
- Selected links and people mentioned in this episode:
- Mindset Matters Registration
- The Mind-Gut Connection by Emeran Mayer, MD
- The Second Brain by Michael D. Gershon, MD
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
- Dr. Paul Stoltz
- Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin
- Connect with REIN Canada
- REIN Canada
- [email protected]
- REIN Channel
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- SHOW NOTES
- [0:05] Patrick introduces this special edition TEDM and a new opportunity that together with his wife and partner Steffany Hanlen, they are offering called “Mindset Matters.” A bigger, deeper conversation supporting and strengthening mindset.
- [03:00] Steffany and Patrick dive right in to discuss Mindset Matters and the big reason behind facilitating and holding space for these meetings and conversation. Curiosity is the inspiration behind it.
- [04:46] Definition of mindset. It’s so much deeper than success in business and getting shit done. It’s rooted in our approach and how we view the world. Further, we can shift the filters through which we see and develop curiosity to help navigate how we make decisions particularly when we are under stress and pressure.
- [06:32] Patrick offers a question which we can ask ourselves to get to the heart of a situation beyond emotion. Because at times, we connect emotional dots that may not be the truth. Steffany expands on self-agency to discuss values-based decision making and guiding principles which can serve as touchstones on our path amid uncertainty.
- [9:03] Breaking down the word mindset: what we are setting our minds and hearts to. In Steffany’s study and work she is observing that we are not at all multi-taskers, rather mono-taskers. With the pervasiveness of technology, we in fact have decreased our capacity to hold multiple containers in our brain of things to consider. Steffany broadens the concept with an example plus a tool to help stay focused in the moment while linking the present to our future goals.
- [12:15] Steffany and Patrick discuss the effects of what our body is taking in, and the information this feeds to our brain. Nutrition, exercise, environment, self-talk – these all significantly affect our emotions, which can then create a state of misinformation to our consciousness. When we can slow down and observe our own environment it will help to connect to our personal spirituality and support healthy messages within our consciousness.
- [18:06] Developing our understanding of what’s unfolding within and around us can also be of support, so we are not at the emotional effect of it. We don’t fully know what our belief systems are until they’re tested, and right now they are being hammered with divisiveness and cognitive dissonance.
- [19:46] Having community and support is immensely helpful, but we also must look at what happens when we are outside of that environment. How are we supporting ourselves on a daily basis when we get hit with challenges? The paradox of emotions we face can be aided by digging into our mindset and building resilience. Steffany highlights the value of the work she and Patrick have done and continue to do to move forward and manage the challenges they encounter.
- [22:38] Patrick speaks to the intention behind Mindset Matters and the potential for shifting our lens of possibility to move or even avoid the roadblocks we encounter on our path forward. Again, embracing that mindset and journey of curiosity empowers us to get out of our own way and kick self-sabotage to the curb.
- [25:03] Steffany and Patrick identify our two main drivers as humans in the space of parenting and belief systems. Our view of the world is directly linked to how and where we grew up. This certainly doesn’t need to become a crutch of limiting beliefs, but it is important to understand the lens through which we may be viewing life. The journey of self-discovery and staying curious can help us to shift, grow and see through a wider lens.
- [31:24] Steffany and Patrick examine shifting our mindset of ‘why is this happening TO me’ to ‘why is this happening FOR me’, improving the quality of the questions we ask ourselves, extreme ownership and willingness to tell the truth. Why do we even want to ask this of ourselves? Why is this important for us to look at?
- [36:53] Going back to emotionally led decisions, Patrick and Steffany acknowledge that it can be tricky to navigate through challenges when we are connecting emotional dots that are not meant to be connected. If we haven’t taken the time to identify who we are being when backed into a corner, then our actions could take us down a path that doesn’t serve us.
- [37:59] Life is never easy, that’s an important starting point. Our perceptions can lead us to believe that others have it easier than we do. This is one of those lenses we can use to skew our view and contribute to our limiting belief. We tell ourselves a story based on our filters.
- [41:53] Expectations and assumptions. Steffany talks about how these two actions can lead us into judgment and sabotage. “We never, ever, ever, ever, ever know what’s going on for someone else.” When we become “right-fighters” we disconnect from what could be true.
- [43:31] Joy, happiness, and fulfillment. Through the work and conversations within Mindset Matters alongside Steffany and Patrick’s facilitation we can walk through what is getting in the way of experiencing more of those qualities in our life. The intellectual stimulation that comes with working within a group also contributes to alleviating the feelings of isolation and loss many people are feeling.
- [47:41] Having differing principles and thoughts does not necessarily have to drive a stake of divisiveness between us and our loved ones. It’s important to recognize this is purely a decision and choice. Do the critical thinking, ask the questions, get aligned with our values, do the opposite not the obvious. From there, we can make decisions, which may be contrary, but always rooted in our values perspective today.
- [53:57] How we show up in the face of adversity, be a stand for ourselves, and find the joy in our lives is at the heart of Mindset Matters. Equipping people with tools and opening up the conversation around self-discovery to take on life differently. It’s not for everyone, but Steffany and Patrick are inspired to do it for those who are!
- [55:41] Steffany suggests we exercise caution around using the word “integrity” to judge one another or ourselves. She emphasizes the importance of staying connected to our guiding values to get us through tough decisions which at times are contrarian to our original standpoint. We must change and grow. Getting clear on our mindset allows for that malleability and acceptance.
- [57:18] Patrick picks up the integrity conversation, to look at our ‘structural integrity’ when we are being true to ourselves.
- [58:29] Steffany and Patrick wrap up their conversation to recognize matters of the mind are so multi-layered and they too are connected to our soul. Mindset, heart-set and soul-set. All decisions we make affect every part of our being; they’re not separate. We need to connect heart to heart, be gentle with ourselves and with one another.
- Our intention for each Mindset Matters is to provide you with useful tools to apply in your life that can help you in taking meaningful steps in achieving your vision, your goals…to be your greatest self and live your best life, even in these challenging times. Click this link to find out more…https://rein.remi360online.com/mindset-matters
